We seek happiness through things, through relationship, through thoughts, ideas. So things, relationship, and ideas become all-important and not happiness. When we seek happiness through something, then the thing becomes of greater value than happiness itself.
-Jiddu Krishnamurti

Let go of the blame, and realize that you are infinite potential. Everything that happens 'to' you is for your growth, even though we lack the ability to see it this way sometimes. Everything that happens around you, you create.